Some people seem to have a natural expression that makes them look angry or upset even when they are feeling neutral. There are several possible reasons for this:
Facial Features
The structure of your face can give the appearance of anger even when you aren’t feeling that way. Some features that can contribute to an angry look include:
- Low brow ridge
- Bushy, low eyebrows
- Deep set eyes
- Thin lips
- Angular jaw
- Prominent chin
Having several of these features in combination can make a person look severe or stern. The angles and shadows created on the face seem to form a scowl.
Resting Facial Muscle Tone
Some people naturally hold facial muscles in a way that creates a downturned mouth or furrowed brow. Even when they are relaxed and not intentionally frowning, the resting state of their face looks unhappy.
This can be caused by habitual frowning or squinting over time which trains muscles to sit in a contracted position. Things like bright sunlight, eye strain, or concentration can lead to frequent frowning that then becomes ingrained.
Learned Expression
Sometimes an angry resting face develops not from intrinsic facial structure but from learned habits of expression. If you grew up being told to stop looking grumpy when you weren’t, you may have learned to hold your face in a way that looks unhappy.
Overtime, this can become an unconscious default. Think of how people get smile lines simply from smiling frequently – the reverse can happen too, with frown lines becoming etched from repeated facial tension.
Impact of Angry Resting Face
Looking naturally angry when you aren’t actually upset can have some disadvantages:
Misinterpretation by Others
People are likely to perceive someone who looks angry as actually being angry. This can lead to avoidance or hurt feelings if others think you are mad at them. You may have to do extra work smiling and conveying friendliness to counteract the first impression your face gives.
Assumptions About Your Personality
Those who don’t know you well may assume you are an angry or unfriendly person based on your appearance. This can make it hard to come across as warm and approachable.
Effect on Mood
There is some evidence that forcing facial muscles into a frown or scowl can actually provoke feelings of anger due to the feedback between face and emotions. So looking angry may sometimes lead you to feel irritable.
Dealing With RBF
Here are some tips for handling a naturally angry looking face:
Be Conscious of Your Expression
Train yourself to scan your facial muscles periodically to identify unnecessary tension. Relax areas like your brow, jaw, and mouth. Be aware of expression when listening and talking to others.
Smile and Nod Frequently
Make an effort to consciously convey positivity. A passing smile, cheerful greeting, or nod lets people know you are friendly.
Explain if Needed
If someone comments on you looking angry, you can briefly explain that it’s just your natural facial structure/expression – you aren’t actually upset.
Use Humor
Joking can help put people at ease if they seem intimidated by your expression. You can say something like “Don’t worry, this is just my face – I’m not really an angry person!” and smile.
Focus on Body Language
Use relaxed, open body language to offset facial tension. Keep arms uncrossed and posture comfortable. Lean in to show engagement.
Medical Options
Some medical or cosmetic treatments can potentially adjust features contributing to an angry appearance:
| Treatment | Details |
|---|---|
| Botox | Can temporarily relax muscle tension in brow, forehead, and around eyes |
| Filler injections | Can be used to plump lips or change facial contours |
| Plastic surgery | Procedures like brow lift can adjust muscular structure |
These interventions vary greatly in cost, recovery time, and effectiveness so thorough research and consultation with a doctor are important.
Learning to Embrace Your Look
While making some adjustments to appear more approachable is understandable, it’s also important to embrace your facial features and expressions as part of what makes you you. Some things that can help:
Remember it Doesn’t Define You
Appearance doesn’t dictate personality or emotions. You know how you really feel inside.
Be Confident
Hold your head high and don’t let self-consciousness hamper your confidence.
Focus on Inner Qualities
Cultivate compassion, patience, humor, and other virtues. These ultimately matter more than outward appearance.
Surround Yourself with Support
Spend time with people who know and appreciate the real you. Don’t worry about those quick to judge a book by its cover.
Conclusion
A naturally angry looking facial structure or expression can present social challenges but doesn’t have to hold you back. Be mindful of your appearance but also ready to demonstrate your true personality. Seek a balance between adjusting what you can and accepting what you can’t. With self-assurance and a sense of humor, you can show the world your beautiful inner self.