A happy marriage requires effort from both the husband and wife. However, there are several things a man can do specifically to make his wife feel loved, cherished and satisfied in their relationship. A happy wife leads to a happy life together! Here are some tips for men looking to bring more happiness into their marriage:
Communicate with Your Wife
Open and honest communication is key to a happy marriage. Make sure you are regularly checking in with your wife to see how she is feeling about your relationship. Ask her questions like:
– How have you been feeling about us lately?
– Is there anything I can do to be a better husband to you?
– What are some things I do that make you feel most loved?
– Do you feel like we spend enough quality time together?
Don’t just ask these questions once, check in regularly to make sure you are meeting each other’s needs and that your wife feels heard and understood. Actively listening without judgement is critical.
Show Your Appreciation
Express gratitude and appreciation for everything your wife does, both big and small. Thank her for making dinner, keeping the house tidy, handling the kids’ busy schedules, or any of the dozens of things she likely handles each day. Let her know just how much you value her and all that she contributes to your family. Written notes and small gifts “just because” can also go a long way.
Help Out Around the House
Don’t leave all the household chores and childcare duties solely to your wife. Offer to cook meals, do laundry, clean up messes, bathe the kids, etc. Taking some responsibilities off your wife’s plate shows you care and want to lighten her load. It also allows her more free time to pursue her own hobbies and self-care.
Provide Physical Affection
Make sure you are regularly providing your wife with physical affection – hugs, kisses, back rubs, hand-holding, etc. Physical touch releases oxytocin, the “love hormone” which strengthens bonding. Your wife will feel more loved and connected to you when you initiate regular affection. Surprise her with a kiss or long embrace.
Plan Date Nights
Set aside a night each week to spend quality one-on-one time with your wife. Hire a babysitter if needed. Take her out to dinner, see a show, go dancing, take a pottery class together – whatever you both enjoy. The activity doesn’t matter as much as the chance to focus entirely on each other.
Give Her Time for Herself
Encourage your wife to regularly take time for herself to pursue hobbies, see friends, or just relax. Watch the kids for a few hours so she can go to the spa or get coffee with a friend guilt-free. She will appreciate the chance to recharge.
Surprise Her with Gifts
You don’t need to spend a lot of money, but pick up small thoughtful gifts for your wife from time to time. Her favorite candy bar, a book she’d enjoy, fresh flowers, a stuffed animal – little surprises to show you were thinking about her will put a smile on her face.
Plan Weekend Getaways
Take your wife on romantic weekend trips whenever possible, even if just to a bed and breakfast in a nearby town. The change of scenery and chance to focus completely on each other away from the stresses of everyday life will help you both feel more connected.
Compliment Her
Remind your wife how beautiful, smart, kind, patient, creative, resilient, etc she is. Praise her qualities and abilities that you admire. Women cannot hear compliments like these enough from their significant others.
Lighten Her Mental Load
Take on the planning and logistics of running your household. Schedule appointments, plan social events, track bills and finances, arrange childcare, etc. Don’t leave the mental management of the household solely to your wife. Share the responsibilities.
Have Shared Interests and Goals
Having activities and goals that you share and enjoy together will bring you closer. Pick up a hobby like hiking, cooking, or dancing that you both can look forward to doing together. Discuss shared goals like starting a family, traveling more, or buying a home that motivate you as a couple.
Conclusion
Keeping your wife happy in your marriage requires ongoing effort: communicating openly, helping around the house, being affectionate, planning quality time together, lightening her mental load, and more. By making your wife’s happiness a priority and showing her through actions and words that you care deeply about her, you can build a healthy, loving and lasting marriage together. The effort is well worth it.