This is a common question many women ask themselves when trying to figure out a guy’s true intentions and feelings. Determining whether a man genuinely cares for you or simply wants to hook up can be tricky, but there are some clear signs to look out for.
He makes an effort to get to know the real you
A man who truly loves and cares for you will want to know everything about you. He’ll ask questions about your interests, goals, family, and life story. He’ll remember details about you and check in to see how important events in your life went. A man who only wants sex is unlikely to take this kind of interest in the deeper aspects of who you are as a person.
He integrates you into other areas of his life
Someone who loves you will want you to meet his friends and family. He’ll make plans that involve you together outside of the bedroom. He shows you off as his girlfriend proudly. A man who keeps you separate from the rest of his life most likely only sees you as a hookup buddy or someone to fool around with occasionally.
He contacts you between sexual encounters
A loving boyfriend will call, text, and contact you frequently outside of booty call hours. He checks in just to say hi or send funny memes that made him think of you. If you only hear from a guy late at night asking to come over, it’s likely he’s only interested in sex.
He talks about future plans with you in them
A man in love will often reference future plans like trips, concerts, or events and assume you will be joining him. He sees you in his future and makes an effort to include you in it. Someone focused solely on hooking up lives more in the moment with you and doesn’t discuss plans far off in the future.
He is there for emotional support
A loving partner will be a shoulder to cry on during difficult times and will check in if he senses something is wrong. He’ll listen and offer advice if you had a bad day at work. A guy only interested in sex won’t make this kind of emotional investment in you and your problems.
He wants to be exclusive
A man who has fallen for you will want the commitment and intimacy that comes from being exclusive. He’ll talk about wanting to make things official and will stop flirting with or talking to other women out of respect for your relationship. A man who wants a no strings attached sexual relationship will be very reluctant to stop playing the field.
He says “I love you”
Perhaps the clearest sign a man truly cares for you is if he openly says those three little words “I love you”. A man who loves you wants you to know it and expresses it verbally. While hookup buddies may enjoy each other’s company, they likely won’t have deep romantic love feelings or freely express them.
Conclusion
Figuring out if a guy’s feelings are real or just lustful can certainly be tricky. However, looking for signs like an interest in your deeper self, introducing you to his life, frequent non-sexual contact, emotional availability, exclusivity, and those loving words can provide good clues into his true intentions. While not definitive, these behaviors can help discern if what he feels for you is more than just sexual attraction and instead long-term love.