Virgos are known for being analytical, practical, and hardworking. They have high standards for themselves and others. When a Virgo feels ignored, especially by someone they care about, it can really get under their skin and cause them to act out in uncharacteristic ways.
They Withdraw Into Themselves
One of the most common things a Virgo does when feeling ignored is withdraw into themselves. As an earth sign, Virgos like to process things internally before expressing emotions outwardly. When they don’t feel their needs are being met in a relationship, their first instinct is to go inward and try to figure out what is wrong.
A Virgo may cancel plans to spend more time alone thinking. They tend to isolate themselves and pull away from the person making them feel neglected. This solitary time helps them analyze the situation and decide if the relationship is worth pursuing or if they are better off alone. It’s the Virgo’s way of dealing with feelings before they get expressed in a more raw, passionate way.
They Analyze The Reasons Why
As they spend time in isolation, Virgos tend to overanalyze why they are being ignored in the first place. Their active minds go into overdrive thinking of all the potential reasons someone is neglecting them.
Was it something they did or said? Did they not make the person feel appreciated enough? Did they somehow disappoint the person? Virgos are hyper-focused on improving themselves and their relationships. When someone pulls away, they are desperate to figure out the cause so they can fix it.
If the Virgo is unsure of the reason, it will drive them crazy. Their over-analysis causes them to become stuck in their own heads. Until they understand why they are being ignored, they will feel in limbo.
They May Lash Out
While Virgos tend to isolate themselves when feeling hurt or angry, they can’t remain silent forever. Honest communication is important to them in relationships. If they don’t speak up about their feelings, resentment starts to build.
Ignoring a Virgo back will only make them more upset. Since they aren’t getting their needs met, at a certain point, they will likely verbalize their frustration. This could show up as passive-aggressive remarks or eventually an emotional outburst.
Virgos aren’t prone to dramatic displays of anger like other signs, but they can become sarcastic and critical. The bottled-up irritation reaches a boiling point. They may pick fights over minor issues or become more cynical. Virgos will try to provoke a reaction so they can finally talk through the neglect.
They Give the Silent Treatment
The Virgo who feels ignored may resort to giving the silent treatment themselves. By mirroring the behavior, they hope to show the other person how it feels. Silence is also a way for Virgos to regain control.
They withdraw affection and make the conscious decision not to engage. This strategic coldness elicits emotion in the other party. When the individual who was ignoring the Virgo starts to get upset at being neglected, the Virgo feels justified.
Withholding communication gives validation to the Virgo that their needs weren’t being met. It also forces the other person to be more attentive. However, this tactic can backfire if the other individual doesn’t notice or care.
They May End the Relationship
If the Virgo continues to feel neglected, they may ultimately decide the relationship is no longer worth their energy. Virgos value meaning in all aspects of their life. They want to spend time with people who make them feel appreciated.
Virgos don’t like feeling vulnerable or wasting time on situations that are unfulfilling. If their needs aren’t being met, they may logically conclude the best option is to end things and free themselves. Though it may hurt at first, Virgos tend to be good at compartmentalizing emotions and focusing their energy elsewhere.
However, the Virgo isn’t likely to make a quick, emotional decision. They will analyze the pros and cons and reflect extensively before deciding if leaving the relationship makes logical sense. If they didn’t invest too heavily in the situation, they may move on pretty quickly once they decide to let go.
They Look Inward
As much as a Virgo may blame others when feeling ignored, they are also inclined to look inward. Their desire for self-improvement makes them reflective when relationships go astray.
A Virgo may wonder if they did something to cause the neglect or how they can be a better partner in the future. Their innate critical nature makes Virgos hard on themselves. Even if they are being ignored through no fault of their own, they may still feel inadequacy.
Being left out can make a Virgo feel they aren’t worthy or lovable. It reinforces anxiety that people will eventually always leave. Their self-esteem suffers greatly. A Virgo may obsess about their flaws or put even more pressure on themselves to control outcomes.
Their self-criticism may lead them to:
- Become hyper-vigilant about not making mistakes
- Strive to be “perfect” so people won’t ignore them
- Work harder to please or be useful to people
- Become overly nice and giving as a form of compensation
Virgos have to be careful their self-judgment doesn’t spiral when feeling neglected. Their desire to improve themselves can either motivate growth or fuel depression. Talking through concerns with a friend can help Virgos have more balance.
They Become More Independent
Virgos are naturally independent creatures. Ruled by Mercury, they rely heavily on their mind and logic. When they feel ignored in relationships, Virgos pull back on emotions and become even more self-reliant.
They dive into work and personal interests they can control. Virgos would rather focus energy on themselves than be neglected. Alone time feeds their productivity and creativity. Independence can be a Virgo’s armor to avoid getting hurt.
However, if isolation lasts too long it can cause problems. Virgos may avoid future opportunities for intimacy in fear of feeling ignored again. They might deny needing others at all in an effort to be strong. Striking a balance is key for Virgos.
They Seek Understanding
For all their independence, Virgos do care deeply about connection. If they realize their needs are consistently not being met, they will confront the issue head-on.
In a calm tone, a Virgo will explain how the neglect makes them feel and ask for clarity on why it’s happening. They may request more attention or reassurance moving forward. Virgos can be extremely upfront about their needs in relationships once they know what those needs are.
If the person continues ignoring them after a direct request for change, the Virgo will likely let go. However, if progress is made, Virgos will be grateful and give people in their life a second chance. Communication and understanding is very important.
They Distract Themselves
Virgos will try to channel nervous energy into productive outlets when feeling hurt or anxious about being ignored. This earth sign isn’t comfortable wallowing in emotions for too long.
They may distract themselves by cleaning, organizing, exercising, or throwing themselves into a work project. Virgos also enjoy learning new skills. Taking a class or teaching themselves something gives their mind a positive focus.
Logging their thoughts through writing or counseling sessions can help Virgos process feelings of neglect in a healthy way. Talking to a close confidant provides an unbiased perspective.
Virgos have to be careful not to let distracting behaviors become compulsions. If their anxiety goes unaddressed, it may lead to restless obsession or even burnout.
How Long Do Virgos Typically Stay Upset?
It depends on the situation, but Virgos tend not to stay bitter for too long once they process feelings of neglect. They are good at compartmentalizing their emotions and focusing on logical solutions.
If they realize the relationship is no longer viable, Virgos can make a clean break and direct their energy elsewhere. However, if the connection is worth preserving, Virgos are willing to communicate their needs directly to avoid further misunderstandings.
Virgos value harmony and often forgive past pettiness if the other person is apologetic and makes a change. They don’t like holding grudges or wasting time staying angry. Virgos would rather find constructive ways to make things better.
Are Male Virgos More Sensitive to Being Ignored Than Female Virgos?
In terms of being ignored in relationships, there are not necessarily major differences between male and female Virgos. Both genders have the tendency to overanalyze and blame themselves when someone pulls away.
However, male Virgos can sometimes hide hurt more because of gender stereotypes that say men shouldn’t be needy. They may try to act aloof rather than communicating their need for reassurance from a partner.
Female Virgos are often seen as uptight or critical. When ignored, a woman Virgo may worry she is too demanding which scares partners away. Her reactions can vary between burying frustration or lashing out.
Much depends on the individual and how self-confident they are. With self-awareness, male and female Virgos can communicate feelings constructively rather than escalating neglect.
Conclusion
Being ignored is one of the hardest things for detail-oriented Virgos to handle. Their grounded nature craves stability and consistency in relationships. Feeling neglected makes Virgos distrustful, critical of themselves, and likely to withdraw.
It can take time for a Virgo’s overactive mind to process feelings of unworthiness. Their reactions may include lashing out, stonewalling, or ending the relationship entirely. However, Virgos can also use periods of solitude for self-reflection and becoming more independent.
In the end, direct communication and setting boundaries helps Virgos get needs met so they don’t have to suffer quietly. As long as they are heard and understood, Virgos will remain loyal and giving partners.